Why Can’t We Be Friends?

Day 27

“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

– Proverbs 13:20

The definition of a guardrail is: a system designed to keep vehicles from straying into dangerous or off-limit areas. You are most likely to find guardrails in potentially dangerous areas of a road like bridges, medians, or sharp corners. Ultimately they are placed to protect you from extreme danger, and direct you back to a safe path.

Friendships are powerful things and they can be great, but they also can be dangerous if you drop your guard when it comes to who you choose to be friends with. When you drop your spiritual guardrail you become less careful. Specifically when we talk about your friends…your posse…your amigos that you hang with – what guardrails are you placing so that they don’t influence the direction and quality of your life in the wrong way which can cause you future pain?

Our scripture verse contains both a promise and a warning. The promise is that wisdom is contagious; it rubs off.  The warning is that you run the risk of something bad happening to you if you run with fools. A fool in Proverbs is someone who knows right from wrong, but doesn’t care. When they eventually go down…you go down with them. (Wrong place/wrong time).

Are you a hanging with the wise or foolish? Wise friends value what is valuable to you and by hanging with them you will never be placed in a position where you will need to compromise your beliefs or integrity. Foolish friends won’t care, and if you hang with them you will be pressured to compromise, or find yourself pretending to be someone other than who you really are.

Lastly as a Christian, and having the Holy Spirit living inside you – you have the “ultimate” guardrail system to “protect and direct” you away from dangerous and foolish friends. When you hear that quiet voice telling your conscience – pump the brakes, and the lights go on – you are entering the danger zone, where if you ignore it, there will be consequences if you continue to hang with them.

Confession for today: “Jesus I ask You today through your Holy Spirit, to help me sort out my friendships and where I need to cut ties with fools.  Give me the strength I need so I no longer allow myself to get backed into a corner and feel pressured or the need to compromise my beliefs or integrity. Thank you that I only choose wise and godly friends, so I can live a wise and blessed life.”

Living for today,

Mr. Tom